for giving knowledge

Performance enhancement is reaching beyond what's known.
God was too aware to think Adam and Eve wouldn't eat the fruit of knowledge.
Reflexively they blamed the warning instead of appreciating how creative the suggestion might have been to avoid that reflex and the apple.

What if a better parental model would have been that God told the first (teen-age?) couple that any instructions will be ridiculed because choice is a *joke? (*that kills the getter or the giver dies)
What if God warned them that choosing to eat that apple will change the conceptual / mental attitude of appropriate behavior?
CHOICE is either resolved with support or questioned by advantage indulgence.
Response can be critical or supportive as the basic choice.
Criticism seems symptomatic with frustration.
Support is the reasonable happiness.
When choice validates it is supportive but any variation on previous knowledge could become critical.

When Cain attacked Abel he tried to blame God for being critical instead of appreciating his sacrifice. This is the reflex of judgment that causes war.
Sharing is the only remedy for dis-ease caused by imbalanced contentment.
The amount of our time spent being content is the value knowing thy self.

The behavior of blame, shame, and threatening are symptoms of critical toxicosis.
The effort to appreciate is the value to increase being which is a primal growth drive.
Peace within is the struggle that the First Noble Truth (& Christianity) suggests is the value of suffering in order to forgive.

patient enough to hesitate

I hesitate to do things for my kids,
and tell myself, "it is better to be patient."
Can anybody help me with the difference between
hesitation and patience?
I have a feeling that that it can't be explained
(like an answer)
but can inspire an experience to share.

interesting observation

The most interesting observation of watching mediators neutralize judgment is that the person with the most judgment thinks they are better symptomatically.

The parental judgment trap is to make their kids submit to their better judgment for their own good.

When my second child was born my mother remembered how we used to get emotionally upset. She said that one time when I was six I stormed into my room and slammed the door and as my mother steamed, my four year old brother said, "why are you so mean to Brad?" To see innocent perception of her best intentions was an eye-opener.

Role-playing is an important opportunity to try better characters. Slowly there appears to be a lessening of the victim reflex that judges beyond your understanding as projected chemical transmutation. The action reaction quotient starts to figure and configure relation response abilities.

I allowed my kids to feel they were better than me, to find self value. I worked at setting the example of NOT telling others what to do. This became the exercise of asking for appropriate attention to specific details. To share my needs (FROM them) as sharing points of view allowed their needs to become more adaptable.

Compulsion is a defensive reaction to THINKING something is offensive. Getting out of the way of non-appreciation exercises powers of observation.

The artistic application of leadership is sharing a vision so that less force is needed to encourage participation.

birthing awareness

Could we be born judgment-free?
Stimulation and incubation is the day and night of infancy.
Parents are responsible for the judgments that nourish their awareness.
How much this behavior legacy affects character is individually balanced.
Judgment projects the paradox of approval and criticism with contentment as the neutral zone. Everything above this line is happiness in varying degrees to (equalize) the discomfort of unmet expectations below the zone.
Pain is a signal to the maintenance department that special attention needs to expedite repairs. This may seem like stimulation but healing is incubation.
The stimulation is on the happiness side of expanding awareness.
Making time for others stimulates the economy of comm(unication)unity.
This information age can get us past punitive judgment for restorative justice.
My method is to present challenging concepts as possible middle-zone expansion.
Contentment counseling helps me give up my complaints, relax anxiety of approval and find more joy in the spirit of sharing ideals,
Stop making things good and bad with judgment and try the for better or worse committment to appreciation (praise is prayer), & quit feeling needy.

fun arguing w/o quarreling

My parents never argued (seriously) in front of me (just with me). My dad's devil's advocate act was quite stimulating. This was the greatest gift of behavior management. When anxiety enters my life I find myself arguing with myself. This prepared me well for parenting teens.

I was also lucky to set similar examples for the kids as infants. I tried hard to never complain. I would suggest better ways to behave more comfortably (for both of us). I kept myself from being too approving because I learned how this is a form of (reverse) *criticism. When they feel blame or shame I try my hardest not to amplify it.

They encourage me to try more active listening. When attemting to tell them something, I notice how defenses develop, so I have been waiting (better), until I am asked. It is hard to ask what we don't understand. Composting opinion(s) can be work. I started appreciating the interview as an art form. Degrees of understanding form behavior patterns that direct caring. (Never forget hate (any discomfort) is pathological care.) Indulging in anger is the easiest way to stop listening.

I am getting good at not getting angry with them. Wisdom does not enter an angry mind, or as Rabelais put it, "Wisdom entereth not into a malicious mind." Their frustration projects anger on me but I invest effort to come arround to a good laugh. Just like my dad, I AM intolerant of intolerance (to balance my sense of humor).

*page 35 of Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Remen M.D.

develop-mental critique

People interpret most negative facts as complaints, but complaining isn't logical. I wonder if SPOCK ever complained on Star Trek. There is an emotional element to complaining that links to responsibility. This need to assume responsibility during the teenage stage makes complaints a develop-mental marker.

All parents have characteristics that demand rejection because they got them from their parents. Social evolution, like a gritty wind, smoothes over rough edges of behavioral difficulties. Since changes seem to come from the major complaints this behavior is a legacy to reinvest.

Freedom is a growing concern. Choice is for control factors concerning results. The ability to respond differently when necessary comes from experiences of flexibility. Wanting more ability than what seems access-able is what triggers complaining.

The American constitution offered more people the entitlement(s) to life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. The wisdom to limit government for larger social trust was inspirational. The class entitlements were eased into a self-responsibility potential.

Acknowledging the need for help doesn't always come with approval. When critical details can be blamed on others the individual securities are not being balanced (or checked). Encouragement is a delicate balance between approval and criticism. Complaints distract the effort sharing process.

To blame and shame others is a responsibility removal trick we like to play on ourselves. Self-Sustainability increases with the ability to respond better (than you thought) in every situation because feelings are being guided by an inclusive spirit. Denial and rejection are aspects of depression. Could self-complaints be the worse?

I don't mean to complain . .

The critical phase is critical because it's about self-approval. Teenagers criticize their parents as reaction to the rules phase. The rules that we decide are most important will create an approval index . This is like the checks and balances of democracy except the three branches are thoughts, feelings, and meanings which define acceptability.

How we spin around this core creates the gravity factors. How can we address the need to make heavy comments and still take ourselves lightly? This is how the harshness of our reality decides other punishing conditions.

Complaints show the weakness of our understanding. How we handle discomfort shows a relationship to our nervous system. Growing pains can mean progress. Finding the path of least resistance means confronting the obstacles with graceful interest. When desires get beyond control maintenance consuming becomes indulgence. Complaints are over-weight emotions.

Happiness is the feeling of winning so the dependency on a loser can set up frustration. The social value of happiness may be why so much conflict exists. If people think their extremes of happiness can be removed from the risk of equal sadness then they are cheating themselves.

Deception factors can be realized through depression. Steps to alleviating this dis-ease in our community will craft a more sharable truth. To the degree you believe in the value of secrets indicates willingness to disadvantage honesty.

Healthy attitude motivates sharing discovery processes. When I learned to relax into the lesson without projecting an answer more was revealed as feelings of contentment. Like Tai Chi neutralization (by balancing) is meditation in motion. Praising what IS (constantly) must be the secret of prayer.
If you're asking God for something, you are complaining (desiring more or less). Contentment can go beyond desire.

cognitive restaging

When Tom Cruise was interviewed last week the only segment I saw was the question about being clear to level eight in Scientology terms. Right out of college in 1974 (between jobs) I tested very clear at a San Francisco headquarters. The official from Toronto interviewed me with other managers and I ended up with a job in their print shop. All I did was file articles but the access to higher concepts (on paper) was enlightening.

The "truth" meter Scientology uses for therapy sessions helps direct your attention past being short-sighted. When we put "charges" on certain subjects, we direct conversation away from issues that need to be worked through. The "operator" of a clearing session should lead a subject up the charges until problem solving reaches a new climax. Many agree to the idea that we repeat the same mistakes until a new perspective is understood.

My fourteen year old daughter took the toilet paper out of my bathroom. When I looked in the cabinet next to her toilet I found she had been short-sighted enough to miss six rolls. I know the conditions that limit my focus and will ask my kids to help those times. Two eyes (points of view) create depth and perspective.

The best partners extend our education. Because marriage should be our best experience in partnership consider the vow "for better or for worse". This cognitive restructuring tool will free thinking from the limited judgment of "Good versus Bad" standards.

The chapter on judgment in "Kitchen Table Wisdom", by Rachel Remen, stresses the relation between approval and criticism. The depth of personal approval issues can be decoded by how we criticize our world. How we use opinions show the reliance on support systems. Some don't even know they aren't self-supportive.

The punitive system of justice has become obviously too time consuming and costly. Blame and shame are an example of how people burden themselves with punishing feelings. Those that think it is effective wish it on other people.

There is a growing awareness of restorative mediation. When we face situations where we know we can't be happy the neutral ground becomes contentment. Understanding is a climax of emotions meeting thinking in a spirit of unity (inclusion/integrity).

Being clear is a process of healthy functioning. Healthy attitudes allow different paths to lead to similar enjoyment. Living together with harmonies that sometimes seem dissonant is part of modern music making (uni-verse-all) evolution.