take advantage 2 forgive

I believe there is mistaken sentiment in the statement,
"Forgive and forget"
I'm afraid some rational minds think that
IF they forgive they will forget (& approve forgetfulness)...
BUT
I believe that if I forgive (honestly,)
I won't have to forget
to feel contentment...

patient feelings

Red Thomas started the School For Expressive Arts in The 60's. At our reunion we talked about his experience with Alzheimer's. As a Professor of psychology, his interest in observing behavior were most insightful. As a musician he found a key to staying connected. When feeling lost, he sits at the piano and asks people to name songs. The memory for music is his favorite therapy.
When my mom told me she had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's symptoms, I assured her that her training as a social worker would allow observation be more coherent for her. she didn't victimize herself with regrets.. For over seven years she amazed her doctors, and everyone lucky enough to share her presence. My father's caregiving actually makes him seem healthier than that day I was told.
Honesty seems to be the factor I would most like to credit for memory effectiveness. Denial and deception depress energy. Willingness to remain open allows details to be recalled with something other that thoughts, "If you told the truth, you wouldn't HAVE TO remember what you said"*
*I remember Jerry Brown saying that to Governor Clinton at a primary debate in '92.