Observing . .
. . a friend, who is a lawyer, repeating himself so much, could be aggravating clients with how much time this takes, shows a need to be clear about important points.
I find it hard to trust the understanding of repeaters. One (truly intelligent) friend tells me I need to listen better but doesn't seem comfortable with my observations like how much he repeats himself. I interrupt when he does this, to illustrate that he needs to hear his own advice. This just perpetuates his reaction to say "listen better", which keeps seeming more like a projection. Does he really think I would be more interested if I was more like him? Is there a cause of this symptom other than too much formal education?
I find it hard to trust the understanding of repeaters. One (truly intelligent) friend tells me I need to listen better but doesn't seem comfortable with my observations like how much he repeats himself. I interrupt when he does this, to illustrate that he needs to hear his own advice. This just perpetuates his reaction to say "listen better", which keeps seeming more like a projection. Does he really think I would be more interested if I was more like him? Is there a cause of this symptom other than too much formal education?
posted by brad4d | 4:23 AM
3 Comments:
Some people need to see that the party they are speaking to acknowledges the point that they are articulating before they give up repeating that point.
There is a tendency by some to respond with points of their own before they acknowledge what the other has stated.
I don't know if this is the case with your lawyer friend.
In some cases, I have also found that people don't see their point sufficiently acknowledged, unless you agree with them.
This can be most exasperating. This is a failure on their part to acknowledge that there is always room for new points of view.
You've got me thinking about who does this to me. Too much formal education? By God, I think that's it.
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