emotional enthusiasm

I talk with a kind of enthusiasm (and intensity) that puts people off. They want to tell me to listen better without considering the possible balance of equally intense abilities in that department. To project that we all need to listen better is an interesting value judgment that is ultimately self-imposed.

I have taken classes in active listening. Both my parents had Masters Degrees in Social Work implying that their attentive qualities were trained and exemplified. I take for granted that people want to increase their understanding.

Conflict resolution classes use a kind of role-playing exercise to extend understanding (sharing) abilities. I have been learning how we defend the limits of certain rules until we can enter the next stage of exceptional growth. Relationship renewal forces us to allow exceptions to previous rulings.

When I know I have reached the end of someone's understanding, I extend my efforts to share knowledge. To project definition relies on limits of intellectual access to emotional balance. Adult behavior has been defined as an equal exchange in conversation.

Children need parental guidance but the inequality of that relation can get uncomfortable. My enthusiasm is very child-like causing a reaction that makes observers feel like they need to teach me something. The adult ideal is to learn more comfortable exchanges. The way I express information as neutral as possible most people seem to think (project) I need (and like) instruction.

We can be told what to do much easier than being told how to feel. Emotional literacy about learning to reach intuitive decisions by bypassing the energy (and time) of reasoning. Ultimately all things should be acceptable under the umbrella of unconditional love (if the Creator is allowed to not make mistakes.) Negative (desperate) influences could release as humor.